It’s Time To Celebrate You!
It's My Birthweek and I'll Party If I Want To
I’m writing you while I am celebrating myself during my birth week!! Hooray!
Thanks Mom & Dad! Yep, my birthday is December 5th, every year. And I love celebrating it.
Why does it sound so strange to announce that I'm celebrating myself? It reeks of arrogance, self-centeredness, haughtiness, self-importance, conceit, sense of superiority...should I go on? I assure you, this has nothing to do with any of those gross characteristics. In fact, it might be an attempt to adjust after living my life too far in the opposite direction! You know what I mean? Living my life for everyone else, except for myself?
How often do you celebrate yourself?
I understand this question might sound crazy to some of you, as I’ve been willing to have other people celebrate me, but it always felt weird to celebrate myself.
I’m here to normalize celebrating you!
What might that look like? Taking yourself out for a nice meal? Scheduling a massage? A phone call with an encouraging friend? Visiting a museum or going to a movie? Taking a nap? All of the above?
I’ve always found great joy celebrating other people, and have unfortunately sought to get most of my value as a human from what I do for other people, and then what they think of me, as a result. Yes, some good stuff has come out of it all—I’m thankful for that. But I’ve been way off balance on the scale of actually taking care of me.
I’ve found that it’s very fulfilling and even healing to put myself at the top of my list from time to time.
What Does It Mean To Take Care of Myself?
Unbelievably, the term “self-care” has negative connotations in some religious circles, thinking it implies selfishness, a big no-no. As I grow older… ahem… I’m learning that I’ve neglected my self, my well-being, for too long and am learning… slowly but surely… how to treat myself with the honor and dignity I aim to treat others with.
And it’s not all about throwing myself parties and eating out. It’s learning to identify what I’m feeling in certain situations. It’s learning what I need to be healthy in physical, mental, and spiritual areas. And then doing something about it. It’s being willing to take stock of what I’m proud about. To celebrate what makes Mark Smeby… Mark Smeby, if you will.
What do you like about yourself? What are you proud about? In honor of my birthday, would you take a few minutes to take stock of you…and perhaps plan something nice just for you. I’d love to hear about it.
It’s gonna be a good birthday. I’ll be 56. Yet it feels like I’m just getting going on the good stuff right now.
Will you join me? I can’t wait to celebrate you.
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Are You Listening To Christmas Music?
I put together a collection of some of the most favorite Christmas tunes that I’ve recorded. It’s in an easy to listen to (and free!) YouTube video. I’ve even added some personal reflections about Christmas, and a cozy fireplace for you to look at! Merry Christmas!!